“For me surrogacy is a resource. After all the years I spent on IVF treatments, all the miscarriages I had, this was an option that give me hope again. I spent more than 5 years trying to conceive a baby. I call this period ‘the Iraq of IVF’, because I think I have PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). I was exhausted, but I was ready to start again… but then she offered me her help”.
This is how the interview began with Melany (invented name), an intended mother in her late 30s. She arrived at Western Fertility Institute after a long story of fertility issues. Melany was trying to conceive a child since 2010. Melany had undergone a series of egg retrievals. Her eggs were fertilized with the sperm of her husband, and now she just has a few embryos left.
Melany told me her sister in law Francis
(invented name) proposed to carry a baby
for her: “When she told me that, I was shocked. I didn’t expect that. Then, I discussed it with my husband. We were initially thinking about adoption, but then we made a comparison: the cost was the same and we had still some embryos left…
” This is how Melany and her husband started to consider surrogacy like an option for their family.
During the interview, Francis told me she wanted to be a surrogate for another family member with infertility issues. But then she hasn’t really considered this option because she wanted her family to be completed: “I had just one kid at that time, I wasn’t sure to make it because I wanted another child. But this time it’s different because I have my 3 kids, I feel complete and ready to help, especially my sister. Yes, she is my sister in law, but I consider her just my sister. I am a baby maker, I am good at that. I want to bring some happiness in their life. I am so blessed she came into our lives, she is such a beautiful soul and she deserves to be a mother because she is amazing!”
Melany and Francis are working on the medication part: Francis is preparing her uterus to receive the embryo. As Quiana explained to us, the line of the uterus needs to be around 7mm. There are 3 weeks of medication and during the 4th week, the transfer occurs.
“The medication is quite easy and funny. Actually, it is a very funny experience, thanks to my sister. Have you ever seen the Pulp Fiction scene? It reminds me of that! My sister and my brother search for the “perfect spot” for the injection, and it reminds me of that scene every time. It is hilarious!”
The transfer will occur in a couples of day. Melany and Francis are excited and they can’t wait for that day.
A good story to start this new year!